To help you through these trying times, here is an example of a beautiful letter to comfort a grieving person.
There’s nothing worse in life than losing someone you hold dear. Illness, accident, old age – it doesn’t matter, and as much as you can tell yourself that death is the destiny of all that is living, when facing that of someone close to you, the perception of what is or should be understandibly becomes blurry. Grieving is a painful experience to go through and it shouldn’t be done on one’s own. Death often brings solitude in the life of those remaining, but pain shouldn’t mean isolation. Going through the different steps of grief is something very personal, but it’s also thanks to the others, to their support, to their comfort and to their presence that people ultimately manage to make it. Helping a relative through this ordeal is essential.
Letter to comfort a grieving person
“My friend, (first name, nickname, or any other way you usually call that person),
I offer to you once more my most sincere condoleances for your recent loss, for that wonderful person who is no longer with us and whose passing has left you so sad
I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you to keep on living as if nothing had changed, when you are going through such an ordeal. I imagine but I don’t know, for I am well aware that no one could trully understand how you feel when confronted to the loss of someone you hold so dear. No one could know just how painful it is.
And no one could carry the pain in your stead. Believe me when I say that if I could, I would bear the grief for you, I would be alongside you in mourning.
I can’t do that, all I can do is modestly be there and assure you of my presence.
I don’t want to bore you with useless words. To tell you that what you’re going through is normal. That you will go up the steps of grieving one at a time at your own pace. I am neither a doctor nor a psychologist so saying such things isn’t my place. It isn’t my role and I’m not about to start moralizing. All the opposite, really.
That being said, I won’t deny that you are hurt, nor will I deny the fact that you are grieving, or pretend like everything is fine. I won’t write that it’s just a phase, an unavoidable step. And that in a few days, weeks or months time, you’ll feel like the weight on your shoulders has become lighter and that your heart will have started to beat normally again.
No, I can’t tell you these things because you and you alone knows how intense your pain is, how much you miss him and the load it all represents. And when confronted to the loss of a loved one, we are all as equal as we are different.
We all need time to be able to move on in life after going through something of this magnitude, but that time is never the same for everybody.
So what could I write to you in the midst of all of this?
I will tell you everything that fallows, in bursts, as if you were in front of me, as if I was talking to you out loud.
Don’t rush. Yes, take all the time you need to grieve at your own pace, serenely, to free your pain and to get back in touch with your taste for life.
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Cry, shout, hit, yell, roll on the ground – but not for too long. Don’t forget to also smile, talk, laugh, remember, wonder, appreciate the little things and love.
And most of all, allow others to love you. Your family, your friends, those close to you, me. All those who are still here and who care about you.
Yes, let us be there for you.
Please, take your time but don’t close yourself up in a negative cycle, don’t let life’s hourglass flow without you. Life needs you, we need you.
What I’m trying to say with my stumbling words is that I understand, even though I feel powerless, and that I am there for you. You can count on my presence and comfort. If you want or need to confide in someone, I’m right here.
Maybe these are just words but I promise you they are sincere. Even if you feel alone, well, you’re not and we’re in this together. To live through this loss, this grieving. I’m right here.
With this letter, I want to express once again all my friendship, and assure you of my presence at your side.
And I hope, in a way, that I have managed to comfort you. Even if just a little bit, even if just for a few minutes.
Take good care of yourself, don’t stay alone and don’t hesitate to call on me, for anything.
(With all my tenderness/my affection/my love…)”
